It's been a long time since I've updated, and it's been a very long two years.
Since B's mother has died, we still have not sold the house. Mainly because he hasn't done anything with it. No estate sale, no setting things up with a realtor, nada.
More importantly, he lost his job.
October 2013, his school called me to come get him. He was well above the legal limit for alcohol. I picked him up, got him home, tried to get him help.
We've been fighting this battle for so long.
This past December, he had a grand mal seizure from detoxing, in front of my entire family and a bunch of kids, on the Santa Clause train.
In March, he was brought home by the cops.
We're separated at the moment, and I'm trying to stay hopeful, but it's really hard.
We're meeting with the couples counselor on Tuesday, where there will be ultimatums given, and I find myself looking at the budget and wondering what the hell to do.
I know I can survive as a single parent. I know. We've been living on my income primarily anyway. But there is also the crazy amount of medical expenses due to ambulance rides, ER visit, intake, and 3 days stay in the hospital - and it's under my insurance, so yes, it is my responsibility.
So I'm trying to cut some corners anyway. And because I don't want to talk about my marriage anymore, I'm going to talk about money.
I called Comcast and cancelled two of the premium channels B had insisted on, plus the $5 "insurance" fee that Comcast charges: $25/monthly right there.
I downgraded my Audible membership from Premium to Gold, from 22.95 to 14.95, saving $8/monthly.
I cancelled our forgotten Care.com membership - of course, AFTER we had been billed again, but still, that's $50 every six months, which adds up.
I have a subscription box I can cancel, and if things do go south and B and I can't come to an agreement about his treatment, I can cancel the local milk delivery, as that is mostly for him.
I know I have a lot of options to be able to cut corners without changing much around my house, but I am hoping the corner I don't have to cut is my marriage.
A Day at a Time
May 3rd, 2015 at 09:37 pm
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May 4th, 2015 at 01:40 am 1430703652
Good start cutting some expenses!
I wish you the best!
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May 7th, 2015 at 04:55 pm 1431017719
I hope your husband is able to get the help he needs. Unless he does, there is nothing you can do. Be strong and take care of yourself and your little Dark Lord. (Love his fictitious name, btw).