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Mother in Laws, Fertility, and Adoption

October 2nd, 2012 at 11:46 am

1. My father in law died 2 years ago, and since then, Brandus' mom has gone drastically downhill. I know she's dealing with depression, but she's also in poor health herself. And she flat out refuses to go to the doctor.

She passed out when she was talking to someone a few months ago - fortunately, a cop who quickly called an ambulance, but she brushed it off and said, "oh, they just said it was low blood sugar."

I'd told Brandus the last time she came to visit that I didn't feel comfortable leaving her watching Voldemort anymore, and HE brushed that off.

This last visit was his eye opener, though. She can barely make it up and down the stairs. She has to cling on to the walls and the railing. Her hair is very thin, she's lost weight, and her arms are two huge age spot bruises. She looks like my 94 year old grandfather, and she's only 64. And once she gets started coughing, she can't stop.

So, he called his uncle, and with both of them putting pressure on her, she's agreed to sell the house and move down here. NOT IN WITH US, because NO NEVER EVER, but to our town. Our job is to find her an apartment she can afford. We're hoping we can put more pressure on her and actually get her in to a doctor down here, but it's doubtful.

This is 1)good, as it will reduce Brandus' stress level, and 2)bad, as it will increase my stress level. Oy.

2. Brandus and I want another kid, but haven't been having any luck for the past 2 years or so. We've seen the fertility doc and have tried a couple of things, but so far, no luck. When Voldemort comes home from Kindergarten with pictures he's drawn of the brother he wants, it really kind of sucks.

3. To go along with that, Brandus and I are looking into the foster/adopt program for our county. We've been planning on this regardless of fertility and whatever happens with that. We have an informational meeting later this month, and then we have to start jumping through hoops. I know there will be applications and home visits, but I'm not sure what else will be needed to be done. Anybody gone the foster/adopt or domestic adoption route?

3 Responses to “Mother in Laws, Fertility, and Adoption”

  1. Looking Forward Says:

    Whew! Good luck on all of the above.

  2. Suzanne Says:

    I adopted from foster care and also from a foreign country. I'd be happy to answer any questions you have. My email is ohsuzannah@wi.rr.com.

  3. Jerry Says:

    Wow, you guys are plenty busy! It took us a while to have a second child, as well, and our oldest would talk about it and pray for a sibling and yeah... that does suck. It happened, though. Smile
    I have several friends who have done foreign adoptions, and my main advice would be to research the country in advance so it doesn't lead to headaches/heartaches later. We are currently living in SE Europe, and even the few people we know who live here and have adopted locally have horror stories dealing with adoptions. For North Americans it can become very challenging indeed, so you want some insurance of a reliable agency and a country with a solid track record. Good luck to you!

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