My husband has been very resistant to even talking about money lately.
I know he's stressed. He's currently being underpaid about $600 each paycheck due to a licensing snafu that was the school district's fault. I'm working as a substitute, so Im making a lot less than I would be if i was in the classroom full time. But he'll barely talk to me about it.
He just gets angry and defensive. I dont want to yell at him for using the credit card to buy Taco Bell (although, OMG WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?), I want to sit down and have a healthy conversation about our goals - you dont like it here? Ok, where do you want to move? How are we going to save up the money to do it? - but the last time I tried, it ended in a huge fight, and Im not going to be the bad guy moneywise anymore.
A few days ago, I told him I sold our mutual fund - because we needed that extra money to pay our EVERY DAY BILLS. I guess that finally scared him. Since then, he's been talking about a second job, talking about how he'll call and cancel cable, and call and downgrade our cell plan...
Well, it's good to know he can talk the talk.
I finally ended up calling and canceling cable and our land line today, as well as downgrading our cell plan.
Now, we just have to wait and see if he'll actually follow through on getting a second job, or if I'm going to have to do that, too.
Talk the Talk
October 15th, 2008 at 01:52 pm
October 15th, 2008 at 01:57 pm 1224079029
October 15th, 2008 at 03:08 pm 1224083323
If you show him things in black and white (or red) would that help? My DH became really defensive when I was concerned about simultaneously juggling things and prioritizing things that all needed to be taken care of. I was really just wanting him to sit down and look and offer an opinion. He already works a 2nd job and his reply to me was, "I guess I will just have to work MORE than I already AM." Hope you get the licensing snafu taken care of and your budget rebounds.
October 15th, 2008 at 06:28 pm 1224095317